I grew up with 2 brothers so I have no experience in this area but if a good friend of mine that was a girl had wanted to date a brother, I'm sure that it wouldn't have bothered me. It didn't bother her, she says, until the girl started going on about how good he was in bed.I imagine this works for dating a buddy's sister too Deb and I started dating when my sister inadvertantly (I think) set us up.However, I guess my needs as a man began to slowly re-emerge.This left me confused and more than a little ashamed.Haven't cried or gotten really angry, but at the same time this feels like a betrayal. I just deleted him from my contacts and left him with silence. But I think there should be a level or respect between people who are supposed to be best friends and he didn't really live up to that, he doesn't seem to be being a good friend. I wouldnt actively pursue him as a friend, but I guess I wouldn't shut down completely. He was pissed and hasn't spoken to me since but I have many more friends than soul mates on this planet.I guess I am wondering what any one else thinks about the situation. We've known each other since middle school We divorced beause of the constant arguments about money us never spending time together Work took up alot of our time away from each other He doesn't seem like a great friend. But I think there should be a level or respect between people who are supposed to be best friends and he didn't really live up to that, he doesn't seem to be being a good friend. He is in a tough position - choose his best friend or the woman that he loves. I just feel that a good friend would have at least discussed it with me IN PERSON BEFORE he started to date her. That's not something you tell someone over a text...shameful. But not saying anything back is the way I'd go too right now. If he was a better boyfriend then perhaps they would be still together but he wasn't.
He told me in his text that this didn't cause my divorce .
I think that would qualify as Deb dating a good friend's brother, so I have no objection.
I don't ever recall hearing that one is not supposed to date one's friends' sibs.
(There are, as alluded above, some aspects of conversation that are best left unuttered, but I was never a big fan of discussing anyone's sexual prowess or proclivities, so I can't see how that would change just because the conversation is with a friend about their sib.) I think lots of times guys have friends that they are close enough with to know are jerks and how they treat women, and wouldn't want them anywhere near their sisters.
But lots of guys have friends that they know are really nice and would be really happy if they hooked up with their sister.