ALSO READ: 11 tips to help you improve your flirting skills Two months ago I attended a friend’s wedding.She is 41 and the man she was marrying, and father of her one-year-old daughter, had just turned 32.Plus a younger man is (wink wink) innocent and naïve in the nice kind of way.They often have beautiful illusions about love that are very refreshing. Fifteen years ago, I was running an ad agency, and we were asked to pitch for an online dating site.To prepare, all of us on the team had to create a profile.As a result, my so-called casual relationships go on a lot longer than most people’s so-called committed ones.I date younger men off and on over periods of 2, 3, 4, 5 — or even 15 years.
I know rumours abound about how dating a younger man is overrated and overly glamourised, and that younger men are childish and all. The experience put me in touch with the bedrock truth.
Parties, rock concerts, nightclubs—I dated the way I should have when I was younger: for fun, without an eye toward marriage. During that time, when I was in my late 30s, I made an important sociological discovery: Men over 40 are profoundly different from those under 35, and it's not just their hairlines.
As much as we're loath to admit it, we base most of our expectations about a relationship on the one we observed, for better or worse, growing up at home.
Maybe women feel that because girls have a head start on maturity back in the seventh grade, our emotional and spiritual equals must forever be at least five years older than we are.
Whatever part of the conventional wisdom they buy into, American women find it easy to summarily reject younger men. They could be denying themselves the most wonderful relationship of their lives.